Break Ups - To Make Ups

An interesting conversation I had (or advice I gave a friend)... The MSN conversation went something like this:

says:
hey how did you get over your last girlfriend
says:
not belinda
says:
the one that messed you up for a year
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the best thing to do...
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is AIM to better IMPROVE YOURSELF!!
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set goals for something you've always wanted to do... & do it
says:
what the hell does that mean
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lol
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it's very symbolic... but here's how it work
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works
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figure out something that will make you better & focus all your energy on that one thing
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for example... if you've always wanted to get into better shape..... focus on working out & looking better
says:
like your tai chi thing?
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lol, kinda - but tai chi was just so i could speed it up
says:
HAHAHAHA
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for my ex-girl... at first i focused on school... put all my energy into that
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then after it was getting in better shape... so i put a lot of energy into working out
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you use them as motivation....
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kinda like i'm doing this so after she'll be like... damn, he looks good.... or damn, he's doing well... or damn, he turned gay
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(the last one was catered for you)
says:
SWEET
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use them as motivation to do better for yourself
says:
MEN IT IS
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lol
says:
yeah but you have to get over them first
says:
what if i still want to get back together still
says:
how do you stop that
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see that's the key to improving yourself... if you preoccupy yourself with your improvement... it doesn't involve them in anyway....
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so after you are done improving.... you can see where you stand then
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whether you still want them... or if they still want you... or if you've found something better
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but in order to get over them.... you must decide to forget about them & focus all your energy on your own personal benefit
says:
yeah
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then decide after you've started reaching your goals, what you want to do
says:
that is the tough part
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it's true... but that also the point where you have the strongest motivation
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you have to try to use all feels of them & channel that into your motivation
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ie. if i start thinking about her.... i'll be like "stupid girl.... grrr... fuck it, I'm going to the gym"
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or "fuck it, i'm gonna rock this exam / test "




Because you see... if you are upset & trying to get over someone (be it guy or girl), you need to focus all those feelings into something positive. Use spite as motivation... and sure enough, as time goes by you'll start feeling better about yourself and stop hating / regretting / being hungup on that person. Using spite & hate or hurt, is a good motivator... but in time you will heal yourself and the hurt and/or hate will disappear & you will be cured. You might even understand why that person did what they did, or what you did wrong or whatever insight you learn from life.

Well, that's the GajCo sponsored advice for the week.